Show me where you’re stuck in your sexuality, and I’ll show you where those same patterns live elsewhere in your life.
Our sexuality is a direct window into what is going on in the rest of our lives. It is where our shadows, wounds and protective patterns show up first, but it is also one of the deepest and fastest routes to change.
When we work with our sexuality, we are rarely working with sex alone. We are working with desire, power, intimacy, shame, boundaries and choice. The places we self-abandon. The truths we struggle to speak. The patterns we continue to choose.
Our sexuality holds both our greatest gifts and our deepest wounds. When we work with our sexual shadow, when we are able to own every aspect of ourselves, we expand and grow in every area of our lives.
And the pleasure that becomes available to us is transformative.
This work is for you if...
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you want to understand and shift the root causes, not just manage the symptoms
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you want deeper intimacy with yourself, your body and your desires
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you are ready to meet the parts of yourself you have hidden, judged or abandoned
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you want to trust yourself, ask for what you want and own your sexuality
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you believe sex can be a place of healing, power, pleasure and profound self-knowledge
Do you feel there is more to sex than you're currently experiencing?
What if you could wake up in 12-weeks...
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feeling turned on by your life
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with more aliveness, more sensation, and pleasure than you never realised was possible
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with an unshakeable sense of self-trust and a profound understanding of your body, your needs and fully owning your desires
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with a deep understanding of your body's sexual blueprint and your pleasure anatomy
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able to ask for what you want in all areas of your life
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totally in love with your body and comfortable in your skin
Are you navigating any of the following?
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disconnection, numbness or dissociation from your body
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shame, guilt or repressed desires
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difficulty knowing or expressing your wants, needs and boundaries
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low libido, loss of desire or difficulty staying present during sex
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painful sex, numbness or difficulty orgasming
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fear of intimacy, vulnerability or being truly seen
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people-pleasing, self-abandonment or losing yourself in relationships
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stuck in a pattern of sex that is functional, but not actually pleasurable
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difficulty trusting yourself or your body's signals
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sexual trauma, abuse, or experiences that continue to impact intimacy
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hormonal changes including PCOS, perimenopause, or postpartum shifts
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body image concerns or feeling disconnected from your changing body
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difficulty accessing playfulness, creativity or aliveness
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navigating mismatched desire or intimacy challenges in a relationship
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exploring kink, BDSM or desire without shame
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rebuilding intimacy after illness, childbirth, or major life transitions
Your body is speaking, you just need to learn to listen
Book a free discovery call
This is an opportunity for us to get to know each other, explore what you're looking for, and see whether we're the right fit.
There is absolutely no obligation.
There is no pressure to decide on the call. If I invite you to work with me, I'll ask you to take 24 hours before making your decision. I want your yes to come from clarity, not urgency.
I'll hold your place for those 24 hours. After that, I'll offer it to the next person on my waitlist.
This work requires safety. But safety is not the same as comfort.
I will hold you as you meet your edges. I will honour your capacity, your history, your protective patterns and the parts of you that learned to survive in whatever ways they could.
But I will also hold you accountable.
I will point out your blind spots. I will name where you are self-abandoning, avoiding, performing or getting in your own way. I will not ask less of you because something is difficult.
I care more about your growth than I care about being liked. This means I will tell you the uncomfortable truth.
Sometimes you need softness, nurture and somewhere safe enough to fall apart.
Sometimes you need someone to look you in the eye and say: you already know what you need to do.
I will be both.
This work is for people who genuinely want to change. People willing to be curious, to be mirrored, to take responsibility for their choices and meet the places they would usually avoid.
Because commitment isn't a feeling. It's what you do when it's hard, when you're scared, and when a part of you wants to quit.
No one can do this work for you. But you do not have to do it alone.
Who am I?
I am a psychosexual somatics practitioner and EFT coach, ex-Dominatrix and lifelong student of Tantra and Taoism. My work lives at the intersection where desire, shame, power, tenderness and aliveness meet.
I am drawn to the conversations our bodies have for us: pain, numbness, dissociation, protective patterns we have outgrown but still inhabit, fantasies we keep hidden, longings we struggle to name, and the parts of ourselves we learned were safer kept unseen.
There is very little you can bring into the room that will shock me.
I am interested in helping you become more intimate with yourself: able to meet what you find there with curiosity instead of judgement, and to make choices from agency rather than conditioning. Because when we stop using so much energy to suppress, perform, protect and abandon ourselves, that energy becomes available for something else.
For pleasure. For intimacy. For creativity. For courage. For a life that feels authentically yours.
I will hold you. I will challenge you. I will walk beside you. As you walk this path.